Have you ever noticed that when you look at successful people that their methods are never the same? In fact, you can even find instances where one person will be successful doing what another successful persons says you shouldn’t be doing?
I have even seen people mimicking other successful people step by step and they still failed!
So how do we truly discover the secret sauce? Stick around you’ll discover 5 steps to developing a ******* of success.
The Secret Sauce to Success
I have been a lifetime student of leadership and the Bible. And I found two incredible sections of ancient wisdom that unlocks the formula for success.
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Matthew 13: 53-58 which says, “When Jesus had finished these parables, he moved on from there. Coming to his hometown, he began teaching the people in their synagogue, and they were amazed.“Where did this man get this wisdom and these miraculous powers?” they asked. “Isn’t this the carpenter’s son? Isn’t his mother’s name Mary, and aren’t his brothers James, Joseph, Simon and Judas? Aren’t all his sisters with us? Where then did this man get all these things?” And they took offense at him.
But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town and in his own home.”
And he did not do many miracles there because of their lack of faith.
The Bible teaches that Jesus went around healing all those He came into contact with. Then, in Matthew 13 we find this startling statement that Jesus came upon a group of people whom did not receive many miracles.
Thats right, Jesus, was unable to bring miracles to these people! Why? Because of their mindsets! Note how these people started off amazed and then slipped into contempt and offence at Jesus.
The miracle maker was before them, but because of their mindset, they were shut out from any access to the miracles!
How many times have we seen people in the exact same circumstances except one succeeded and one had excuses!
There’s an old story about two shoe salesmen whose company sends them to a remote village in Africa. Upon arrival, one sends home a message saying, “No one here wears shoes; will return shortly.” The other salesman sends this message: “No one here wears shoes; send inventory!”
This is the meaning of the ancient wisdom writings in Proverbs (above) that instructs us to guard our hearts because everything flows from it!
Have you taken stock of your heart (mindsets) lately?
Mindsets Bring Success, Not Methods
This single truth can absolutely revolutionise your life! This my friends is the key to success!
We so often search out methods we can copy to achieve success, even paying thousands of dollars to be instructed in the latest and greatest methods to success. And when the methods don’t bring the success we desire we run off after the next big thing. But chasing your tail your will never bring you success!
The most successful leaders realise that first we must deal with peoples mindsets before focusing on the how-to’s. You can do all the how-to’s till you are blue in your face, but success is really dependents on ones mindsets!
This is why you see such variety in the methods that successful people use. It’s not really the methods that bring them success. It is their mindsets that they bring to those methods!
Developing A Mindset of Success
Raise the Bar
The Challenge that most of us face is that we have set the bar too low. We compare ourselves to other unsuccessful people and so we settle for average. The only way to get better is to push yourself and require more from yourself.
Have you found yourself settling for average?
There is nothing as unremarkable as average.
2. Success Breeds Success
Have you ever noticed that successful people hang out with successful people? Is this because they are snobs who see themselves as too good to hang out with the Joe Average’s?
The ancient wisdom from the Bible in Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
Successful people hang out with other successful people because they challenge each other and inspire one another. One persons big thinking inspires another to think big thoughts. And being in this environment causes one to continually stretch for more.
So hang out with successful people, be that in person or through resources such as podcasts, courses and books. Stop making excuses and just get around other successful people!
Who are you hanging around with?
3. Challenge Your Thinking
Have you taken stock of the thoughts you think? Would you be part of the small minded and offended people of Matthew 13 or are you someone who is continually seeking to grow and improve your mindset?
When negative thoughts come that give you all the reasons why you can’t do something do you ever stop to challenge those thoughts?
Be your own coach! A coaches role is to encourage his players to believe in themselves, to continually stretch and push the boundaries of what is possible. A coach challenges negative thought and demands that excuses are tossed aside.
When you find yourself facing negative self talk, write it out, crumple the paper up and throw it away. The re-write the negative in the positive.
For example, if you were in a social setting and found yourself thinking that no-one would want to talk to you you need to re-write that negative talk by saying that of course people will want to connect with you as you are a great listener who adds value to others… of course people love talking with you!
Will you begin to be your own coach?
4. Get Others To Challenge Your Thinking
The truth is that sometimes we are just too close to our own circumstances and mindsets to recognise when we need to challenge our thinking.
There is no more important asset to helping you get the right mindset than getting a great coach or mentor. Tips to getting a great mentor can be found HERE.
And while it may require an investment, the return in your investment will be incredible!
Who will you bring on your team?
5. Don’t Let Past Failure Trap You
I experienced this for myself when after working in a certain denomination for ten years in two different churches in South Africa I was called to a meeting with the national leader who summarily fired me from my position as an assistant pastor and was told that there were no positions available to me in any of the other seventy odd churches in that denomination.
As you can imagine, I was crushed! When your hero calls you in and basically says you don’t have what it takes, thats a tough pill to swallow. Ten years of my life seemed to be flushed down the toilet in that one moment. But we shouldn’t swallow every pill that we are given! I did some soul searching and came to the conclusion that this leader was wrong.
Moving forward was easier said than done. My confidence was rocked. But with the support of my faith and my friends I put myself out there. Fast forward six months and I was employed in a church that was seven times the size of the one I was fired from.
I was given an entry position at a church. I was thankful for the opportunity. But one of the faulty mindsets I had acquired from my setback was that I had a mistrust of senior leadership. I had to work hard to overcome this. I did this by going out of my way to serve the senior leadership. This could easily have just become a part of ‘my way’ but I knew if I didn’t deal with it immediately, it would always be with me. When I did deal with the faulty mindset of mistrusting senior leadership, I was then able to rise quickly into a significant leadership position in the church.
How has your past failures affected your mindsets today?
I have given you a challenge at the end of each of the 5 steps to developing a success mindset. But I don’t want you to try and do all 5. Just pick the most relevant one for you and begin to work on that. Focus on applying it this week and if you make a habit of it your leadership and personal growth will be revolutionised. This is your key to success.
Who Will You Bring On The Journey?
Lets admit it, who likes doing things alone? It’s always much more fun when others are on the journey with you! Why not send the URL to this post to a few friends and work associates and take the journey together. You can also share this post using the social share buttons at the end of this post. As the ancient wisdom says, “…iron sharpens iron.”
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